As many of you guys know, Kell and I started as friends. Friends for six years that ran in the same group of friends. When we first met, we had a crush on each other, but nothing came out of it then because there was a bigger + better plan for us and quite frankly timing just wasn’t right for us then. We both dated other people during those six years and did our own thing, and fast forward to 2017 we jumped from friendship to relationship. Within a year and a half of dating we were surprised by the news of our baby, and now we’re engaged! There’s a lot more to that story and I’m going to save “Our Story” for a different blog post cause that’s a wholeeeee other post, but I want to share why I knew he was the one the second we started dating.
I’m 100% myself around him
This sounds like a given when you choose your life partner, but it’s not as easy to be completely yourself than you think and I think a lot of you guys would agree. I finally found someone that I can be 100% myself. I think a big part of this is because we started as friends, but I can tell him or do anything without feeling judged. I remember taking him to my high school friend’s wedding when we started dating, and all of my childhood friends were like “I have never seen you so happy! You are completely yourself!”. I’m the same goofy person around him that I am around my sister and my family. I know we still have a lot more to discover about each other as we do this thing called life, but the matter of the fact is that we are not afraid to be ourselves in front of each other.
Love language
You guys know about love languages right? (if you don’t CLICK HERE). Well, I don’t know about you guys, but I believe my love languages have been the same since I was a little girl. I’ve always thought when you’re in love and in a relationship, you’re supposed to be affectionate towards one another (hold hands in public, kiss, be all lovey-dovey) and communicate your love for one another. Well, later in life in previous relationships, I learned that those are MY love languages and not everyone gives and receives love the same way I do. You can totally make different love languages work, but Kell and I happen to value the same love languages and it makes loving one another a whole lot easier! There are of course love languages that we appreciate more than the other but we always make an effort to try to meet each other’s love languages to keep each other happy.
The love I always dreamt for
Maybe it’s because we have the same love languages, but he treats me the way I’ve always wanted to be treated and not to be corny, but the love that I’ve always wanted since I was a little girl. He makes me feel so loved, so happy, so secure, and safe. I don’t take any of it for granted. Every day I make an effort to reciprocate the way he makes me feel.
He’s my best friend
We have a lot of fun. We tease each other, we laugh, and we crack inside jokes ALL THE TIME. I have to admit, I can be uptight at times and have a type A personality, but he’s taught me to loosen up, to have fun, and enjoy life. That’s why I can be 100% myself around him. I’ve never been like that with anyone! I thought I had confidence before him, but he has truly built my confidence and made me feel whole.
We communicate
Trust me; our relationship is not all rainbows and butterflies. We have disagreements, but they are disagreements, not fights. We have had some difficult conversations, and we’ll have even tough discussions in the future. But we communicate our feelings to each other. The small + big feelings, the good + bad things. Then we talk through it. We both listen to each other and make each other feel heard and I have never had that before in past relationships.
I adore him
No, not just for his handsome looks and his height, but his personality. I find myself often in group settings looking at him from a distance thinking how cute he is and how much I love him. I love that I can take him anywhere and he leaves the party with five new best friends. I love how kind he is, how funny he is, how he’s not afraid to be who he is, and the one thing I love most is how he’s not scared to show me and the world how much he adores me.
I truly think life is all about timing and compatibility is totally a thing. I’m not super religious or anything, but I thank god every day that life worked itself out for us to be together. It wasn’t an easy road to get here, but we’re here now, and because of what we’ve been through in the past, we are grateful to have the love that we do. I truly never believed in soulmates until I dated Kell. We work on our relationship every single day and make an effort to make each other feel loved + happy. I’m happy that I never settled and fought for what I wanted. I think everyone should do that because you only live once and everyone deserves to be loved and have the love they’ve always wanted.
